Is your relationship losing its spark? Check these out!

Dating or being in a relationship can be a very magical experience. You’ve crushed on this particular somebody for so long. You’ve had all the romance novel experiences; butterflies in the stomach, stars in the eyes, and fluttering in chests. You’ve gone out of your way to impress them and get the chance to start talking to them. You finally got talking and you asked them out, or they asked you out. You played the coyness/waiting game for a while, and then it happened, the word YES got said and heard. Your dreams have come true and the person you love now belongs to you.

At some point, the story seems to get sour, you just can’t explain it but something doesn’t seem right any longer. You’re not as into them as you used to be initially. You just can’t seem to find the ‘wow’ factor in your relationship again. The bad news is that this is a sign that your love is headed for the rocks if something is not done. The good news is that there are things you can check to troubleshoot and get all lovey-dovey again. We list them below:

  • Communication: In most cases, when things begin to get cold, the first place to check is communication. How open are you with each other? Do you talk as often as you used to? After spending some time in a relationship, we often make the mistake of assuming that our partner has us all figured out. We expect that they know that we love them and we don’t have to repeat it. When they do something wrong, we expect them to figure it out and apologize without us having to let them know. This is wrong, a successful relationship is built on open communication lines. You have to keep affirming your love for each other. If something goes wrong, talk about it. That’s how to grow together.
  • Ego: Here’s another culprit that makes love wane in a relationship. Don’t ever feel too big for your partner. Leave the attitude at work or at the grocery store. If you did something wrong, apologize! If you want something from them, be humble enough to ask for it. Your relationship is more important than your ego, so always remember to keep it in check
  • Beliefs and Expectations: In our fast changing world, not only does music and fashion fad change very often. Personalities change too. Unfortunately, a lot of us expect our partners to be the same person they were when we started dating. This is unrealistic, at different stages of life, we all experience minor of major shifts in our philosophies and values. You must learn to be tolerant and accepting of your partner’s evolving personalities, and if it happens that these changes are too abrupt or do not fit with your own beliefs then return to the first point and talk about it. Communicate!

Dating in the 21st century is a pretty complicated issue, but if you keep these in mind, you may have a little more luck with figuring it all out.

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